How to Reignite Connection
Differentiation is what makes the difference between relationships that are stuck or "boring" and those that are alive and growing... plus our summer sale ☀️is still going on!
Differentiation in Relationships -Reigniting Connection
By Jamie Azar, Certified Sex & Relationship Coach
When we neglect to maintain our independence and autonomy in a long-term relationship, we risk “merging,” “fusing” or “enmeshment” with our partner. In essence, what this means is we lose our own sense of individuality; we may become attached, we may stop seeing our partner or spouse as an erotic being, and we may forget to see ourselves as a separate erotic being.
Fusing or enmeshment may be a conscious or subconscious coping technique enacted when you’re anxious, upset, or afraid. You may want to try and appease your partner or just “smooth things over" when addressing an issue. Perhaps one person or both people fear moving towards autonomy as they harbor self-doubt and seek validation for their self-worth. Perhaps it happens due to domestic patterns or habituation. To learn more about differentiation, why it’s important in a relationship, and how a gentle reframe in perspective can reignite connection and better sex in your relationship, read the full article below!
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Don’t miss out—CNM Support Group THIS WEEK!
It’s that time again! Our biweekly CNM Support Group will meet once again this Thursday, 8/8, 5pm-6pm PST. Whether you are returning member, or newly intrigued and looking for community, we’ve got you covered! Meetings are virtual, $20, and led by Shades of Non-Monogamy co-founder Melissa and Wayne LeSane.
Email here to join the conversation, find community, and get the support you’re seeking!
NEW BOOK CLUB COMING TO LAST AUGUST 16!
Book club is a $30 meeting hosted and facilitated by the amazing Elle Hawkins, LCSW. This month we will be reading “Sex For One- The Joy of Self Loving,” which confronts one of our last and most deeply rooted taboos—masturbation—noted sex expert and pro-sex feminist Betty Dodson, Ph.D., takes the shame out of self-love by creating a straightforward and appealing guidebook that reveals masturbation as a satisfying, vital form of sexual expression.
Catch up on Episodes of Shades of Pleasure Podcast
Four S*xologists (Mou, Kelly, Melissa, and Wayne) open up and get vulnerable about love, life, and their pursuits of ethical and consensual non-monogamy.
We’ve got 4 episodes out!
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